Keith Orie Describes How to Stop Nay-Sayers Stealing Your Peace of Mind
We’ve all encountered nay-sayers. People who criticize,
doubt you, and put you down walk among ordinary people, and you can’t make them
go away. However, you can take action to protect your courage, motivation, and
willpower to combat their negativity. In this article, Keith Orie, a certified professional life
coach in Temple, TX,
describes how to maintain your valuable peace of mind and enthusiasm against
cynics who threaten to take it away.
Indulging Their Reality
Toxic people and nay-sayers tend to see themselves as the victim in every situation.
Regardless of your actions or their own, they’re likely to spin the situation
to shift the blame to someone else or construe the story in a way that favors
their personal agenda. It’s an endless cycle.
When nay-sayers are using this tactic, don’t play along. You
might feel prompted to nod and smile to save face, but this actually encourages
these people to perpetuate their behavior. Instead, you should try to
respectfully disagree. While this might upset the person, it will discourage
them from involving you in the future. Nay-sayers can’t stand people who
disagree, and will likely leave you alone.
At the end of the day, you know what is best for you.
Criticism and put-downs are nay-sayers only strategy to feel valuable. They’re
trying to cut you down to their level; don’t let them do it.
Healthy relationships involve give and take. Your wants and
needs can only be met by those willing to recognize your boundaries and
When you give your energy to nay-sayers, you’re not going to get anything in
return. This depletes your valuable emotional energy and makes you less
equipped to recognize and take action towards meeting your own needs.
Compassion, Not Assistance
Toxic people can change
their behavior. But it must come from within. Unfortunately, as much as you’d
like to, you can’t fix a nay-sayer. They have to be willing to put in the work towards a more
successful and peaceful life.
Nay-sayers come in all forms. Maybe your parents, family
members, or other important figures in your life are toxic and you don’t want
to completely cut them out. In this case, it’s okay to offer the compassion and
kindness that they are incapable of offering you. Suggest that they get help
elsewhere. Offering assistance saps your emotional resources, offering
compassion doesn’t. And at the end of the day, if they are incapable of even
receiving your kindness, you can always just walk away.
Nay-sayers are out to steal your peace of mind because they
can’t find it within themselves. By letting these toxic people influence your
life, your emotional energy and resources are drained, leaving you less
equipped to maintain peace in your own life. By avoiding indulgence in their
skewed reality, putting yourself first, and offering compassion rather than
assistance, you can preserve your peace of mind and surround yourself with
individuals that lift you up rather than drain you.
About Keith Orie
Keith Orie is a certified professional life
coach in Temple, Texas, and an owner of Advanced Medical Sales, LLC. He started the
company late in college to help medical professionals effectively treat
patients through non-invasive pain relief procedures. Mr. Orie understands the
value of customer support and has built a team of resourceful professionals to
make sure all client queries are responsibly and promptly addressed. The
extensive range of medical equipment Mr. Orie distributes includes portable
ultrasound machines, electrical stimulation devices, neck traction devices, and