This is what you should do when you are criticized on social media:
There is a real man somewhere.
Even the most heinous trolls, who seem to jump on you all day and hate society, still have a soul and can be released. We can be honest with each other and admit that life is hard. It is not easy for everyone to accept.
Interestingly, social media is a place that is মতো like the real world এবং and being authentic in our real-world relationships can help you find and connect with like-minded people. It actually “works” as a way to connect.
I recently noticed this when I “sprinkled beans” on how hard it is to write a book. My entire strategy has changed, not only in my email newsletter, but also on LinkedIn, Instagram and Instagram. I have explained how the intensive research process has influenced my approach. Far from my friends, it was hard to stay isolated for a few weeks and still be able to read a few chapters.
Surprised and relieved, I heard from Elena Cardon (writer, speaker, businessman) that she had the same point of view.
Truthfulness is a winning strategy. After seeing some of her keynote messages, I became interested in her perspective and got a feel for it by reading her LinkedIn posts about motherhood, business ownership and the reality of being busy.
“Honesty is one of the most powerful ways to connect with others online and offline,” he told me recently. “In the context of social media, I’ve learned that when I show my authentic self, people resonate with me and recognize me.”
Cardon says that truth is what people desire. This is the wish of all of us, because we want to be real with each other.
And being honest and sincere is an effective way to empathize with others. Cardon believes that truth is the key to empowering others and allowing them to be honest. This allows them to be more confident and openly share their talents with the audience. Most people are not always supportive or welcoming.
The most striking revelation, though, is that our own truth helps us reach a wider audience, because we are not hiding behind a veil. You might think of it this way: If you really want to build relationships with people who will buy your book, support your cause, or listen to your podcast, it makes perfect sense to show who you are.
Fake people attract others who will never be. “You can’t fit everyone’s mold,” Cardon said “So, stop trying. Be you and let it roll.”
Each person can only take so much. Cardon recommends that you avoid gossip and share your dirty laundry to avoid falling prey to critics.
“Manage your affairs behind the scenes,” he says. “You can be honest when you tell people how you handled the situation. These bad experiences can be used to teach in a very positive, practical way. However, you don’t have to look at the wreckage of the train. It’s not inspiring.”
An authentic life is not necessarily about sharing every single detail of yours. An example of my book. I realized I didn’t want to show it off easily or without hindrance. Since my book is about productivity, I stopped trying to convince people that it was all a smooth journey and that I was always perfectly productive. When I made that switch, and stopped trying to impress people with what proved to be the hardest project I’ve ever done, I began to see more comments in the posts … that might be related to my imperfection journey.
To me truth means being real. When it comes to criticism, I can still rely on those who know my history and see my point of view. It’s up to me to decide who can respond.
“Human words don’t define you,” Cardon added “Often, they say more about themselves than they do about you. Keep exposing the content, and who it might affect. Don’t stop at the first sign of criticism.”
When we meet like-minded people who share a common interest in real life issues and situations, we are able to enjoy the knowledge of others instead of pointing fingers at trolls.